Пять языков любви. Как выразить любовь вашему спутнику

Käisin esmaspäeval kinos ja pärast sain jälle poole targemaks, et kuidas maailmaasjad tegelikult käivat. Tähelepanekuid elust on teinud keegi Gary Chapman, kelle selleteemalise kodulehekülje leidsin internetist: www.fivelovelanguages.com

Teooria kokkuvõte:
Do you know your partner’s primary love language? If you aren’t communicating your love in ways your partner understands, your relationship may suffer.
Vene keeles kõlab see: Вы стараетесь показать супругу, что любите его, а он как будто ничего не замечает. Может быть, вы просто говорите на разных языках? Возможно, ваш муж хочет, чтобы вы ему посочувствовали, а вы вместо этого готовите вкусный ужин. Возможно, вашей жене хочется проводить с вами побольше времени, а роскошные букеты, которые вы преподносите каждый вечер, ей не нужны.

Gary Chapman identifies five love languages as:
*Words of Affirmation. An unsolicited compliment, a kind word, and words of encouragement are very powerful. Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
*Quality Time. This means togetherness and personal connection, not just being physically nearby. Learn to have a quality conversation, really listening to each other. Take time to have fun together. Do things you each enjoy; explore new activities together.
*Receiving Gifts. The message here is that the gift giver was thinking of you and wanted to let you know. Expense is not the main thing – it’s the meaning. A favourite treat picked up on the way home or a card for no reason sends a priceless message.
*Acts of Service. Cooking, washing the car, laundry can be acts of love. Challenge the stereotypes. Doing something that is helpful to your loved one will be noticed, if it is their language of love.
*Physical Touch. A hug, a kiss, holding hands, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating love. Research indicates that positive physical contact is important to emotional health; some say you need four hugs a day.